KICK LIKE A GIRL

As many of you know, I am a person who loves to help others. I find that my inner touch with emotion is why I connect with people and their pain so easily.
I am going to school because of my passion to help others and I am looking at graduating with my bachelors in psychology.
I first started in nursing then I switched to community health and now I am in behavioral science. When people ask me.. what is it that you want to do.. I never know a solid answer because the truth is I really dont know! All I know, is that I was sent here on earth to help others some how.

Due to the classes I have been taking lately, I have become obsessed with the idea of helping women. I have learned so much about the damage that occurs to women in every culture world wide. From the media to sexual exploitation to food. Women throughout the ages have been treated like slaves, hookers, and objects. From every angle in which we look at, women are constantly being damaged. Our media portrays women as objects; that are to be treated with little to not respect. Women are shown to be okay with the hypersexualization that our media portrays, and allows for our youth to over sexually express themselves at much younger ages. Girls dress like women and women dress like girls. What was at one point supposed to be kept in the bedroom is now exploited to sell a hamburger bun. The impact that this all has on women is astonishing and at the same time very sad.

Rape, Violence, Sexual Crimes, Murder, Eating Disorders, Self Esteem Issues, Depression and Suicide are all of the risk factors associated with the damage that our society has placed on women. The value system that our society has now portrayed to a young girl is this: "be innocent, be slutty, eat all you want, but only eat yogurt, and most of all to be hot you must be: skinny (preferably a size 0- which implies that you are a nothing), light skinned but bronzed, have big eyes, puffy lips, and flowing hair.

      At this point in time when we turn to our youth and ask, who are your role models we need to be seriously concerned! Brittany Spears, Kim Kardashian, Lindsay Lohan, Lady GaGa!?
Our society does not take smart, strong and empowering women to use as role models, and if they do, they strip their clothes down and pose them in very provocative poses.
We have become so obsessed with the idea that true beauty only comes from what can be bought, shaped, altered, and even cut into perfection. That true simple beauty no longer exists.

Today I attended my third Clothesline Project. For those of you who do not know what this is let me tell you what the Clothesline Project entails. This project has been put together to create awareness to all of us who live our lives in ignorance. The victims of crimes such as: rape, murder, incest, sexual assault as well as battery all write their stories on a t-shirt and hang them up on a clothesline for all to see and read.
The atmosphere is quiet and they have a dong, whistle and bell that rings. Every 10 seconds a dong sounds to represent a woman that is being beat. The Whistle blows every 2 minutes to indicate that a woman is being raped and a bell rings to indicate that 3-4 women in the united states are killed by her intimate partner each day. Yes it is as sad and heartwrenching as it sounds, but at this point in time I fear that we are so numb to violence that it may take more than this for us to wake up and realize the reality of violence.

I am sad to say but I see more t-shirts every year and this year I had to leave because after ten minutes of standing in a sea of these t-shirts I started to cry. To see the increase in white t-shirts (murder) made me sick to my stomach, and most of all angry.

After calming down and thinking, what can I do to feel like I can make a difference?! I have decided that I am going to try and convince as many of my friends and family to attend the WALK A MILE IN HER SHOES. This walk has been put together to help these victims! Women, men and children all go in their heals and walk for as long as their feet will take them to help create awareness for these crimes. It will be this saturday at 10 am at the city center in orem. I encourage everyone to go and help fight against these crimes. I want to start helping others become aware of our surroundings because knowing what's going on could help another woman out of a horrible situation.

WOMEN are BEAUTIFUL! In every shape, color and size! We have the ability to bring and take care of new little people and that is a gift that god especially gave all of us. Women are smart, empowering, creative, nurturing and the list goes on! Why should we sit back and not do something about the images that show our youth on what they believe represents women, why should we let men abuse our fellow women and treat them like object. Why should we let our society tell us that because of our sex, we cannot get paid and have employment that is just as good as men? We have come a long way but I know that the fight is not over.

I love women and I am proud that I am one! I am proud that I kick like a girl, throw like a girl and live like a girl. I am sick of seeing images that dehumanize women and the violence acted out on us. No one deserves to be treated as if they are less than only one else because the only one who decides that is God.

So for today, Women is what I am passionate about..

Until Next Time..
Love Jessy!












P.S Here is a Quiz for you to see if you can tell the difference between porn and teen images.
In the following I have 3 ads that have been taken from: 1. Porn magazine and 2. Teen magazine
Your job is to tell which ones have come from where, it should be easy right?



 Image # 1.

 Image # 2

Image # 3

To see if your answers are correct send me a message and ill write you back. Good luck

When Life Gives You Lemons.. Call a Missionary!!

So for the past month I have been feeling not so great! As most of you already know, I have had a bad kidney infection and it has caused me to be in and out of the hospital quite often. At this point I feel like I have been on a terrible roller coaster ride because one day I feel ok enough to go to school and the next day I cant even make it out of bed. My life consists of water and pills all day.. where i feel like this picture describes exactly how i feel!!

Well yesterday was particularly bad because I got a fever of a 100.5 and my whole body hurt, I had the chills and was convinced that it would only be moments time that I would be sitting in heaven drinking sweet lemonade with my beloved grandma.

 I guess after over dosing on Ibuprofen my fever came down and the chills went away. I made an appointment to see the doctors for today because the lymph nodes in my neck were getting pretty swollen and I was just worried all around. I found out today at the doctors that the infection in my kidneys has not gone away rather it has become worse. Which was devastating news because the last time I went to the doctors they had told me the infection was gone and all I had to deal with was the side effects of a swollen kidney.. nausea.. grose! So today they gave me a super yucky shot.. that felt like it came roaring from the depths of.. you get the point! Ouch!! I cried, screamed and cursed as usual.. The bad news is.. I get to go back again tomorrow for another shot!! I have had painful shots before the "peanut butter"shots is what we all like to call them.. well they are pleasant compared to the devolic thing they gave me today! This one in particular, stings, bites, burns, eats a portion of your skin right off as it numbs your whole leg and radiates pain up your hip and back!! Im telling you.. if this does not do the trick.. im making a direct call to heaven for a kidney replacement. haha check please!

Well disappointed, in pain and just not happy.. I felt like I had to give my missionary buddies a call just to see how they were doing. I had gotten a blessing from them a little more than a week ago and I miss them not coming around as often. We talked about the weather, life, and I asked for a refund on my health blessing! haha They are so fun to just joke around with.. they are not uptight at all so we have a great time. Well those sweet and caring souls came OVER!! they surprised me with a huge bag of chocolates!! Twix, almond joy, caramellos, fast break.. you name it! Its king sized and in that special little baggy! They are so sweet!! They said they felt like I need some chocolate to make me feel better!! They must have girlfriends back home because chocolate is always a good remedy for girls! :) They hung out with us for a about 20 mins before they went running out the door to beat their "clean" inspector! haha What funny guys! I invited them over for lunch on saturday just so we could hang out with them some more.

 As for my chickies.. I believe that he is doing a whole nursing carrier with me!! He has been here through the thick and thin and I can say that im the luckiest girl alive to have such an amazing boyfriend. He missed class today just to make sure I felt better after my shot! Im actually pretty happy that I got him his Iphone because I cry and make a fuss and he holds my hand, rubs my head, pats my back, and still manages to catch glimpses of his games and sport stuff on his phone while I am having a moment.. haha I think god placed me in his life to teach him patience.. and after this month.. I realized that he has passed with flying colors. At this point no one can say that my chickies is not patient because he has truly proven the exact opposite! I had a horrible dream last night that my chickies left me.. When I woke up all I could do was be so grateful that he is still by my side and appreciate all that he does for me. :) 

So to good boyfriends, a great family, and super awesome missionaries


Hugs and kisses

Jessy!

When Boy's Think Romantically!!

I have been wanting to make a post about the amazing dinner that Gabe and the boys did for us on valentinesday!


I know we are now in march and talking about valentines day is old news, but it was so amazingly beautiful what these guys did that in my eyes they deserve a post! Even if its a little late. :)






So here it is:

Ok, so Gabriel, Juan, Eugene, dad Carlos, and little Carlos, all got together and planned an amazing valentines day surprise for us girls. They did such an amazing job at keeping it secret!! Everything they bought was stored in the garage, gabes room and in a variety of very interesting places! Througout the week they each managed to tell each one of us girls different lies to get around their plans. For example little carlos told andrea that he needed the fondu machine for some special reason, i cant clearly remember what, but I think he tied it in with school. Juan told Cinthia that they were going over to Gabes house to celebrate Mirna's birthday! haha and well big carlos is just good at being quiet all around! So here is the list of the lucky girls and their couple:

Mayra &Eugene

Mirna & Carlos

Andrea & Carlos

Cinthia & Juan

Jessica & Gabriel

These guys cooked, planned and even decorated! I cant even begin to express how impressed I was and still am with the way they made our valentines day so special. Our day began with us girls being told that we had to arrive at Gabes house at exactly 4:30pm! Gabe understands my difficulty with time.. so he threatened me and made sure I was the first to arrive! haha When I walked in I got sat in the office with mirna and they shut the doors! haha they were not quite yet ready.. and mirna was so excited that her husband was cooking!! Well soon enough came mayra, andrea and cinthia. We were told that the 5th course was being prepared and we were to wait just another minute. 

While we waited the guys, chopped, seared, broiled and roasted!! I still cant believe they cooked all of that food in under two hours! They did manage to turn the kitchen inside out and use over 55 plates!

But it was all worth it in the end. 

When the food was all ready, each of the boys came into the room and escorted us to the dinning room! The table was beautifully decorated!! they had wine cups and palate cleansers along with laminated menu's personalized to each girl. It was all very shocking! They showed us to our seats and told us they would be back in a minute! 

Soon after they left, they all came in dressed so fancy!! With little red bowties!! they each were holding a red flower for each of us.. and chickes got me roses too!! Not only were these boys our dates.. they were our waiters and cooks! We had our own little ratatouilles for the night haha.. 

                                        

Our elegant 5 Course Meal included the following: 

Lobster and Avocado Salad 

Shrimp Cocktail with specialty sauces 

Pan Seared Quail 

Blue Cheese topped Filet Mignon 

 Chocolate fondue covered strawberries and bananas

The meal was so well thought out and just delicious! The remainder of the night we talked, cleaned and enjoyed each others company.  It was definitely one of the most romantic evenings of my life. 

Thank you chickies!! :) 

Hugs and kisses 

Jessy 

If you want to see the rest of the pictures.. they are on facebook :)